Comments on: Protecting Our Children From Narcissists

By: Sharon

Sharon — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 19:38:59 +0000

I am the step mother to a beautiful step daughter who is 6 years old and is in terrible danger because her Mother is a text book Narcissist and most likely a Malignant Narcissist, who is a teacher and claims to be a Christian….it makes me sick to watch what is happening to her and I feel so helpless because the courts do not have any legislation that protects children who have narcissistic parents…they are way more dangerous than a drug addict because they get away with the abuse everyday…who protects these children????? I need help if anyone out there knows of any such organization…. HELP ME PLEASE…..

By: Concerned

Concerned — Mon, 01 Nov 2010 16:02:00 +0000

and that is exactly what they want you to do. Take the blame for what they do. It is the cycle. Especially for passive aggressive narcissists. I really hope your not in the field of giving advise to others! I have been in psychotherapy for over 8 months to “learn” how to “NOT” blame myself!!! They teach you to do that! IT is not the victim’s fault EVER! It is like telling a rape victim they are to blame! Very sympathetic of you! Accept your responcibilities? The only one accepting responcibility for anything in a relationship with a N is any one but, the N!
Yes she will take many more precautions in the future to avoid this again and maybe she should have to begin with but, just because she did not watch every little thing she didn’t does not mean in anyway she was responcible for his diluted and sick mind.

It is so hard to break free from the abuse. Don’t confuse people into thinking there are only 1% of the population that are like this. Look up Narcissistic see how many there really are. Narcissistic personality disorder may only be psychologically diagnosed to 1% of the population. But, anyone with any psychological knowlegde knows that is not in reality the truth. I think you mean sociopathic or psychopathic. These people are abusive and self centered. They are manipulative and cruel. You read all the stories about abuse, bullying, and it will start to become clear. She was not pretending to be a psychologist. I would have given anything to know there were really people like this out there. To know how to see them before they hit you with their real personality.

By: Tuffbabe1962

Tuffbabe1962 — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 18:11:00 +0000

I think these authors have made it clear they are survivors of severe narcissistic abuse. They do not claim to be psychiatrists nor mental health professionals. They offer this information because there is very little help for the people who are the abused. I know, because I am one. I wish there had been just a little more information out there so I could have figured out what the hell was happening to me a little sooner! The instance of narcissism in our society is very under reported. Psychiatrists themselves have stated this over and over. It is not in the best interest of the narcissist to get help. In their mind, they are not the one who needs help! Hence, the reported numbers are very low. Again, this is stated in the budding research being done on this subject.

Beware of the negative posters. One of the Interesting behaviors I have noticed is that narcissists themselves seek these posts out to negate them.

The authors have clearly stated “Draw your own conclusions, and if this helps, then great”. I don’t believe it is necessary or warranted to criticize.

By: Hopeful

Hopeful — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 17:02:24 +0000

Also, keep in mind that it is possible for narcissists to travel in groups, once again I hate to point out that Hitler and the Nazi party were extreme malignant narcissists, so yes you can have a massive amount of people that are narcissistic, it is not impossible. Erich Fromm first mention group narcissism. I agree that you cannot generalize, it takes a very well trained, and I mean on the profiler level do identify a real malignant narcissist. Some people term it as the inability to form long lasting relationships, this is not so, Hitler had a long term relationship with Eva, was a real part of the Nazi regime.

The really sad part is that you have junior psychologists and wanna-be psychologists, who have had no life experience with true narcissists – trying to diagnose people who may not really be a narcissist at all. I believe the experts when they say, a true malignant narcissist cannot be captured.

By: Hopeful

Hopeful — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 16:51:36 +0000

Narcissists are extremely hard to read, the depth of the insanity is only apparent to those closest to them, it is not apparent to just anyone, a malignant narcissist isn't detectable sometimes even by the most trained of psychologists, you have to be very close to them. Simple charm and grandiose ideas doesn't describe the degree to which these folks cross over the line into real insanity. There is a neuron in the brain somewhere that can tell us why these folks don't function right, I would just like to know why they haven't located that neuron just yet, I mean look how long ago Hitler happened.

By: cindyplatt

cindyplatt — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:59:02 +0000

As an educator and a mother I felt this information gave me a few aha moments. I appreciate in the e-book the preface: “draw you own conclusions” based on your experiences and what you have observed. I feel keeping it all in perspective there is an awareness that can be gained.

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By: writerdad

writerdad — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 07:46:54 +0000

You can have too few people in the garden, though! That's when stuff just withers and dies. :(

By: The JackB

The JackB — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:06:09 +0000

You can never have too many people in the garden, unless of course they are standing on your rose bushes. I hate when that happens.

By: WelshScribe

WelshScribe — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 01:26:45 +0000

Ahh but Sean, us narcissists must be ignored. Can't feed us what we want ;)