“Don’t wait to make your son a great man – make him a great boy.”
~Author Unknown
So the other day, Mia and I were…
“Dad.”
“Hold on buddy, I’m telling a story.”
“But I have to tell you something.”
“Okay, but hurry. This post isn’t gonna write itself.”
“It’s my turn.”
“What do you mean? Your turn for what?”
“You talked about Mia last day. It’s my turn.”
“No, Max. Yesterday I wrote about language, and how we learn…”
“No Daddy, you talked about Mia’s school. You always talk about her. You never talk about me.”
“That’s not true, Max.”
“I see what you’re saying, Buddy, but I did a whole post about you right when I first started. Remember?”
“I know how to count, Daddy. This is just like all the pictures of Mia in iphoto.“
“… Um… Well, do you want to watch a movie?”
“Daddy…”
“It’s just that you’re such a good boy, Max. And people like conflict. Mia gives me more to talk about. You know how Daddy keeps working on his book? It’s because there’s not enough conflict.”
“Maybe you could work on the book instead of talking about Mia.“
“You’re right, Max. Come here and give me a hug.”
I know exactly what to say.
My son Max is the nicest person I’ve ever met.
Yes, I know. Being his father should reduce my opinion to little more than an infomercial intruding from another room, but really, if you met him, I’m sure you’d agree.
He says thank you for everything, from a donut before school (a rarity, I promise) to a shot in the arm from the doctor (I’ll tell you that story some other time).
He admits when he’s tired, and tells me at least ten times a day that he loves me, that I’m his best friend, or both.
He will share any toy with anyone, without so much as a thought to slow him.
He is not yet familiar with the worst of humanity, and still believes in everything from Santa Clause to the Easter Bunny without the thinnest wrinkle of suspicion.
He is a teacher’s dream and would make any parent proud.
What about the conflict?
Well, thankfully, he isn’t perfect.
If our rascal was perfect now, Daisy and I would be living in dread of the moment the rug would be yanked from under our feet; terrified that the days were numbered until our little boy was swallowed by the monster of adolescence, causing us to rescind every kind word we’d ever gushed on his behalf.
No, Max may be impossibly nice, but he can also be quite the little rascal, with just enough pesky conduct to assure us that none of his boy parts are broken.
His three most reassuring behaviors:
- Max has the innate ability to lead (manipulate) just about any child (no more than two years his senior) into doing exactly what he wants at any given time. This is a jedi like gift, but he has not always chosen to use it for good.
- He has the ability to migrate from riotous laughter to sullen pout in the thinnest slice of a second (a performance that works exponentially better on Daisy than it does on me, though the opposite I’m sure is true with Mia).
- Max has the occasional, yet unwavering conviction that he is in charge of drafting the house rules, and that everyone else must have simply missed the memo.
But even in their totality, or packed inside a single day, Max really is the most delightful boy I could ever imagine – generous, and funny, and nice.
Seriously, Max, if you were any less of a rascal, I’d be searching for my receipt.
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What a beautiful story! I still have just one kid (and he’s just a bit over one year old) so I haven’t yet had to deal with the fact that kids know how to count. But I imagine it’s not that far away at all.
I’m happy to have found this blog – and love your style! Keep up the good work!
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What a beautiful story! I still have just one kid (and he’s just a bit over one year old) so I haven’t yet had to deal with the fact that kids know how to count. But I imagine it’s not that far away at all.
I’m happy to have found this blog – and love your style! Keep up the good work!
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The same conversation in my house…..
“Dad.”
“Hold on buddy, I’m cooking dinner.”
“Humph! You never listen to me.” STOMP STOMP STOMP
You’ve obviously taught your children how to express themselves. It’s something I need to work on.
….and ‘rascal’ is a great word.
Cheers
Dave.
The same conversation in my house…..
“Dad.”
“Hold on buddy, I’m cooking dinner.”
“Humph! You never listen to me.” STOMP STOMP STOMP
You’ve obviously taught your children how to express themselves. It’s something I need to work on.
….and ‘rascal’ is a great word.
Cheers
Dave.
I loved hearing about your little man. Rascal is a great word and works so well to describe little boys. I get the feeling your little man and mine would establish a great dictatorship if they ever got together.
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I loved hearing about your little man. Rascal is a great word and works so well to describe little boys. I get the feeling your little man and mine would establish a great dictatorship if they ever got together.
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Kid’s can be amazing…, and they also notice when their siblings seem to get more attention than they do. Sounds like you have great kids.
Last December, before we went on a visit to Wisconsin, I was warned that I needed to pay more attention to our grandson than I had on the last visit. It seems that he got the impression that I cared more for his sister than I did him…, which, of course wasn’t true. So I took extra care to include both of them and to be sure that I didn’t unintentionally pay more attention to his sister than I did him. Nothing more was said after that.
It’s funny, though, how I was told about the problem. My daughter was apparently reluctant to tell me so she told my wife, who then told me.
Kid’s can be amazing…, and they also notice when their siblings seem to get more attention than they do. Sounds like you have great kids.
Last December, before we went on a visit to Wisconsin, I was warned that I needed to pay more attention to our grandson than I had on the last visit. It seems that he got the impression that I cared more for his sister than I did him…, which, of course wasn’t true. So I took extra care to include both of them and to be sure that I didn’t unintentionally pay more attention to his sister than I did him. Nothing more was said after that.
It’s funny, though, how I was told about the problem. My daughter was apparently reluctant to tell me so she told my wife, who then told me.
Jarkko: Thank you, Jarkko (with an extra thank you on the side). I love the layout of your blog. It really stands out. Daisy and I plan on getting lost there this weekend.
Dave: Best strategy ever, and I think I’m going to do an entire post on this, is silence. When either of my children are being annoying or loud, I ignore them. Then they’re more inclined to use words rather than body language to express themselves. Dave, thank you for being so constant. I appreciate you being here.
Kool Aid: I have no doubt.
Mike: It’s so hard, and you don’t want to feel like your every action is under the microscope. I know in my house, the competition for attention is fierce. I think it always will be.
Jarkko: Thank you, Jarkko (with an extra thank you on the side). I love the layout of your blog. It really stands out. Daisy and I plan on getting lost there this weekend.
Dave: Best strategy ever, and I think I’m going to do an entire post on this, is silence. When either of my children are being annoying or loud, I ignore them. Then they’re more inclined to use words rather than body language to express themselves. Dave, thank you for being so constant. I appreciate you being here.
Kool Aid: I have no doubt.
Mike: It’s so hard, and you don’t want to feel like your every action is under the microscope. I know in my house, the competition for attention is fierce. I think it always will be.
As adults we tend to complicate things way too much. Sometimes, well most times I think, if we saw things from our child’s perspectives, it would help us make better decisions.
We also become blazé with so much of life’s little treasures. There are these moments when something simple and beautiful is right in our face, yet we can’t seem to see it (that’s what my wife says about me and looking for something in the fridge anyways). Things like a drop of water on leaf, a bird singing, someone laughing, and all these little moments that surround us.
Everyday I’m reminded of the beauty of life. All because of my daughter.
As adults we tend to complicate things way too much. Sometimes, well most times I think, if we saw things from our child’s perspectives, it would help us make better decisions.
We also become blazé with so much of life’s little treasures. There are these moments when something simple and beautiful is right in our face, yet we can’t seem to see it (that’s what my wife says about me and looking for something in the fridge anyways). Things like a drop of water on leaf, a bird singing, someone laughing, and all these little moments that surround us.
Everyday I’m reminded of the beauty of life. All because of my daughter.
David: That is precisely why Daisy and I opened a pre-school together, so that we wouldn’t miss those moments. It’s amazing what you miss, if you don’t take the time to stop, listen, and observe.
David: That is precisely why Daisy and I opened a pre-school together, so that we wouldn’t miss those moments. It’s amazing what you miss, if you don’t take the time to stop, listen, and observe.
WD: This reminds me of a story I heard once, and if you don’t mind I would like to share it.
A little boy goes running in to his daddy’s home office.
“Daddy, daddy, can we go play catch out front for a little while?”
“No” the dad replied, “I have a lot of work to get done and it can’t wait.”
The little boy stood there for a moment in disbelief, his daddy didn’t want to play catch with him. He then mustered up the courage to ask “Daddy, how much do they pay you each hour at work?”
His dad responded “$34.17 an hour, why?”
“No reason” the boy responded and ran out of the room all excited. After about a half hour, he came back downstairs to the kitchen and asked his mom if he could borrow $1.13 and would repay her shortly.
The boy then ran back into the office where his dad sat dilligently working on the computer. He dumped out exactly $34.17 on the desk from his piggy bank and the borrowed money.
His dad turned around to a huge smile from the little boy “here daddy, now can I have an hour of your time to play catch?”
It is amazing the relationship with a dad and his daughter and a mom and her son. It is hard for me to find fault with our little girl because I have been wrapped around her finger since I knew she was a girl. Our son on the other hand, completely laid back and the exact opposite in attitude, gives me one hard time and then his mom comes to the rescue and the world is back where it should be.
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WD: This reminds me of a story I heard once, and if you don’t mind I would like to share it.
A little boy goes running in to his daddy’s home office.
“Daddy, daddy, can we go play catch out front for a little while?”
“No” the dad replied, “I have a lot of work to get done and it can’t wait.”
The little boy stood there for a moment in disbelief, his daddy didn’t want to play catch with him. He then mustered up the courage to ask “Daddy, how much do they pay you each hour at work?”
His dad responded “$34.17 an hour, why?”
“No reason” the boy responded and ran out of the room all excited. After about a half hour, he came back downstairs to the kitchen and asked his mom if he could borrow $1.13 and would repay her shortly.
The boy then ran back into the office where his dad sat dilligently working on the computer. He dumped out exactly $34.17 on the desk from his piggy bank and the borrowed money.
His dad turned around to a huge smile from the little boy “here daddy, now can I have an hour of your time to play catch?”
It is amazing the relationship with a dad and his daughter and a mom and her son. It is hard for me to find fault with our little girl because I have been wrapped around her finger since I knew she was a girl. Our son on the other hand, completely laid back and the exact opposite in attitude, gives me one hard time and then his mom comes to the rescue and the world is back where it should be.
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I enjoyed this article a lot. I always like to find blogs like this that are different than any other ones I read. This should be recommended to everyone.
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Sounds like you have a pretty good kid, there.
If it were my nephew, the conversation would have gone something like this:
” WAAAAAHHHHH!!!! WAAAAAHHHHHHH!!! SCREEECH!!! ”
(…for the next 20 minutes).
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Sounds like you have a pretty good kid, there.
If it were my nephew, the conversation would have gone something like this:
” WAAAAAHHHHH!!!! WAAAAAHHHHHHH!!! SCREEECH!!! ”
(…for the next 20 minutes).
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When the Evil Genius was a wee babe, I worried something awful was going to happen, he was so good – didn’t fuss, slept on his own, slept through the night before six weeks (boy, did that get the pediatrician’s knickers in a twist!), ate anything I gave him, never got sick. Yikes!
Now he’s five. Also, he’s all boy. Whew. Crisis averted.
Umm…excuse me…he’s trying to convince the cat that the dishwasher is a rocket to Mars…
Shade and Sweetwater,
K
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When the Evil Genius was a wee babe, I worried something awful was going to happen, he was so good – didn’t fuss, slept on his own, slept through the night before six weeks (boy, did that get the pediatrician’s knickers in a twist!), ate anything I gave him, never got sick. Yikes!
Now he’s five. Also, he’s all boy. Whew. Crisis averted.
Umm…excuse me…he’s trying to convince the cat that the dishwasher is a rocket to Mars…
Shade and Sweetwater,
K
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Your story reminds me about my younger daughter, who at this moment is fast asleep. She’s definitely the rascal in the family alright. She “bosses” me around, is not afraid to tell me that she is angry with me or that I’ve done something more for her sister. At the same time, in her tender moments, she knows how much I love her and does the sweetest things for me. She’s really got me wrapped round her finger!!
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Your story reminds me about my younger daughter, who at this moment is fast asleep. She’s definitely the rascal in the family alright. She “bosses” me around, is not afraid to tell me that she is angry with me or that I’ve done something more for her sister. At the same time, in her tender moments, she knows how much I love her and does the sweetest things for me. She’s really got me wrapped round her finger!!
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Lovely post. It’s nice to read a dad blog for a change!
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Sal: I love your story, perfectly illustrative. I know I’m lucky to have the set (boy and girl) to perfectly match Daisy and I. I never take it for granted.
UBE: Thank you for saying that. I guess if I had a single aim with this blog, it’s that it shouldn’t be able to come from anyone but me.
Friar: Is it possible for you to leave a comment without making me laugh?
Kyddryn: You mean, the dishwasher doesn’t go to Mars?
Evelyn: They own us, don’t they?
Lovely post. It’s nice to read a dad blog for a change!
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Sal: I love your story, perfectly illustrative. I know I’m lucky to have the set (boy and girl) to perfectly match Daisy and I. I never take it for granted.
UBE: Thank you for saying that. I guess if I had a single aim with this blog, it’s that it shouldn’t be able to come from anyone but me.
Friar: Is it possible for you to leave a comment without making me laugh?
Kyddryn: You mean, the dishwasher doesn’t go to Mars?
Evelyn: They own us, don’t they?
What a great story about your Max. I think everyone has a little bit of rascal in them. You love them very much, I can tell – that’s wonderful.
Each child is unique, aren’t they? Even in the same family. And they all have a way of sometimes wrapping us around their fingers.
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What a great story about your Max. I think everyone has a little bit of rascal in them. You love them very much, I can tell – that’s wonderful.
Each child is unique, aren’t they? Even in the same family. And they all have a way of sometimes wrapping us around their fingers.
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Another thought about our kids. When it came time for gifts or otherwise spending money on them, we were always careful to not buy more for one than we did for the other. Now, with one of them 36 and the other 33, I still find my wife carefully calculating how much we’ve spent on each.
The good news? They both like gift cards — which makes it so much easier.
Another thought about our kids. When it came time for gifts or otherwise spending money on them, we were always careful to not buy more for one than we did for the other. Now, with one of them 36 and the other 33, I still find my wife carefully calculating how much we’ve spent on each.
The good news? They both like gift cards — which makes it so much easier.
Max sounds a bit like one of my nephews. His sister is the bid deal at their house, and he’s the nice one. Better start blogging about him more so he won’t become too rascally. ;-)
Therapy surely will be interesting in about ten years. Kids today will grow up and see shrinks because of what their parents said about them (or didn’t say) on the internet. Hehe. :-)
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Max sounds a bit like one of my nephews. His sister is the bid deal at their house, and he’s the nice one. Better start blogging about him more so he won’t become too rascally. ;-)
Therapy surely will be interesting in about ten years. Kids today will grow up and see shrinks because of what their parents said about them (or didn’t say) on the internet. Hehe. :-)
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Great post. I must say though that I think that although your sons temperment might be part of why he is the way he is, I think the biggest reason is because you are an example to him of what a real man is…plus it is evident that you and his mom have invested a lot of love and time into him. You have given him a solid loving foundation that enables him to know his self worth and value. You really are blessed aren’t you? It is great that you are passing on to your children all these things that they will carry with them into the future!
PS You probabaly already know this but I just have to say it. The very fact that you think so highly of your son( and he knows that you do)and express it the way you do, means the world to him.
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Great post. I must say though that I think that although your sons temperment might be part of why he is the way he is, I think the biggest reason is because you are an example to him of what a real man is…plus it is evident that you and his mom have invested a lot of love and time into him. You have given him a solid loving foundation that enables him to know his self worth and value. You really are blessed aren’t you? It is great that you are passing on to your children all these things that they will carry with them into the future!
PS You probabaly already know this but I just have to say it. The very fact that you think so highly of your son( and he knows that you do)and express it the way you do, means the world to him.
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@WD: Max sounds like a really intelligent boy. At the very least he’s got some logic behind his arguments. Good story.
@Sal: If I ever have a kid like that, I don’t know what I’ll do. I suppose it’s a parent’s lot to accept that their children will inevitably surpass them in intelligence one day. Heh.
@Friar: You are one funny guy. Glad I found your blog via WD.
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@WD: Max sounds like a really intelligent boy. At the very least he’s got some logic behind his arguments. Good story.
@Sal: If I ever have a kid like that, I don’t know what I’ll do. I suppose it’s a parent’s lot to accept that their children will inevitably surpass them in intelligence one day. Heh.
@Friar: You are one funny guy. Glad I found your blog via WD.
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Lance: Mia and Max are apple and orange, but they both have me wrapped around their finger.
Mike: Some habits never die, but gift cards make them easier to handle.
Amy: Ha. I never thought about that before, but I’m sure you’re right. Sounds like a future post to me.
Lori: Thank you for your words, they mean a lot. I do know that my son’s world is built by his parents. We do not take it lightly.
Ian: He does know how to string his arguments together. Friar makes Writer Dad say, ha ha ha.
Lance: Mia and Max are apple and orange, but they both have me wrapped around their finger.
Mike: Some habits never die, but gift cards make them easier to handle.
Amy: Ha. I never thought about that before, but I’m sure you’re right. Sounds like a future post to me.
Lori: Thank you for your words, they mean a lot. I do know that my son’s world is built by his parents. We do not take it lightly.
Ian: He does know how to string his arguments together. Friar makes Writer Dad say, ha ha ha.
Aww that is really lovely. You are so right, it’s really easy to write about the ‘difficult’ child and how funny/exasperating/infuriating they are and how they wind you up and how you feel like you’re less of a parent to them because you feel you just didn’t ‘get it right’ with them.
And the ‘good’ child’s reward is to be ignored almost because, well because they’re good and don’t need constant nagging!
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Aww that is really lovely. You are so right, it’s really easy to write about the ‘difficult’ child and how funny/exasperating/infuriating they are and how they wind you up and how you feel like you’re less of a parent to them because you feel you just didn’t ‘get it right’ with them.
And the ‘good’ child’s reward is to be ignored almost because, well because they’re good and don’t need constant nagging!
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As my oldest 3-year-old son would say…that is the “coolest of the cool posts”
http://fatherhoodandbeyond.wordpress.com/2008/08/19/enjoying-the-mundane/
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As my oldest 3-year-old son would say…that is the “coolest of the cool posts”
http://fatherhoodandbeyond.wordpress.com/2008/08/19/enjoying-the-mundane/
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What a sweet tribute to Max. He sounds absolutely delightful! If he can’t give you conflict to write about, then maybe he can provide inspiration for being positive and thoughtful. You must feel like a lucky dad indeed.
What a sweet tribute to Max. He sounds absolutely delightful! If he can’t give you conflict to write about, then maybe he can provide inspiration for being positive and thoughtful. You must feel like a lucky dad indeed.
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Andrew: We are the luckiest of the lucky.
Melissa: He is, and he does.
Tara: It’s a razor edged double blade indeed. Congratulations on your featured blogger of the day.
Andrew: We are the luckiest of the lucky.
Melissa: He is, and he does.
Writer Dad,
That’s completely adorable! Max sounds like a chip off the ‘ol block.
The situation is definitely a double edged sword, but I think you’re going to have to write more on little ‘ol Max — after all, you don’t want him going into his piggy bank and coming back with $37.17 now do ya? ;)
And that quote should be framed and hung up on a wall for all to see.
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Writer Dad,
That’s completely adorable! Max sounds like a chip off the ‘ol block.
The situation is definitely a double edged sword, but I think you’re going to have to write more on little ‘ol Max — after all, you don’t want him going into his piggy bank and coming back with $37.17 now do ya? ;)
And that quote should be framed and hung up on a wall for all to see.
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