Poop. Put it in the Potty

“Finding a good quote about potty training is hard.  I guess no one really wants to talk about it.”

~Writer Dad

Deciding when, and how to take our wee ones from diapers to deliverance is something every parent must face.  

The common timeframe delivered by experts is somewhere between 18 months and 3 years, though I don’t believe that age is as relevant as readiness. 

If our child can tell us about their dirty diaper, they’re probably ready.

If they can articulate their need to be clean, they’re probably ready.

If as an adult, they might remember a time when they strolled the house in diapers, then they’ve been ready for quite a while.

Toilet training might be the first major chasm we cross as parents.  It involves us as much as them, and should be driven by careful thought. Learning to use the restroom isn’t just about losing the diaper, it’s about gaining personal responsibility.  

When we allow our children to stay in diapers when they’re capable of doing otherwise, simply because they don’t want to take their next step or it’s more convenient for us, then we’re allowing them to make the rules, and setting a poor precedent, at a far too early age.  

Worse, we’re teaching them that we’re comfortable with the idea of cleaning up after them, until they decide different.

I know what you’re thinking —  “But my daughter’s only two.” 

That may be true, but she’ll soon be four, then six… then sixteen.  

Right now, she’s learning who she is, and those first years are paramount.

For some children, training is effortless, as easy as slipping vegetables into the mac and cheese.  For others, it’s a trying time when our spawn will heavily assert their will. 

This difficulty shouldn’t detour.  Remember, it’s called potty training.  We may have a little extra laundry, and a load of extra conflict, but the battle is relatively short, and when it’s over, our child is stronger and so are we.

This is all very pragmatic; yet perfectly practical parents seem to lose all perspective when it comes to potty training. 

It’s delicate. 

Either we hedge because of the anticipated difficulty, or we’re afraid of the damage to their psyche if we push too hard or too fast.

As far as cerebral ruin is concerned, I’m not suggesting that anyone wrap their children in chains until they can properly eliminate.  I’m simply saying we should observe our children, for it is us who know them best. 

When we’re confident they understand what’s happening, and what they’re supposed to do, and their bodies are capable of getting the job done, then we have no excuse as parents to stand idle and allow them to make messes for us to clean, with no accountability to themselves.

Potty training doesn’t begin when we finally decide to grit our teeth and buy a couple dozen pair of underwear.  It’s an awareness that we should build into the conversation from the changing table on.

I know the subject’s touchy, and I certainly didn’t raise it to see my subscriber count drop, but Daisy and I have trained ten children in the last three years.  If approached clinically, and in the right window, potty training is a positive and empowering experience.

Today’s wee-book was written from that experience.  Please consider a purchase.  It’s eight wonderful pages and prints beautifully.  You can laminate it and let your little one hold it in their hand.  It’s the first collaborative fruit from the Writer Dad tree; its success is fertilizer for more.  

The awesome picture up top is from Dave at Blogger Dad. He’s melted a multitude of minutes to draw and format this wee-book, without seeing a single penny.  

I hope to correct that this weekend, but either way, I’m glad we could offer potty training help to those who need it.

It’s been a great week.  See you Monday.

Writer Dad

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Going to the potty is something we must do.  Mommies do it.  Daddies do it.  Even me and you…

Previous Friday releases:  Mia Maria and Two Times the Kindergarten, Lucas Bright: I Know I’m Special, The Eighth Wonder of the World, and Bye Bye Butterfly.

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Comments

  1. Dave Fowler says:

    Writer Dad, I’m going to spare you my potty training stories today, but @ Friar I’d just say You’re not missing anything. I’ve been wiping my children’s bottoms for the last seven years and it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. :-D :-D

    Dave Fowlers last blog post..The Truth, The Whole Truth And Nothing But the Truth

  2. Dave Fowler says:

    Writer Dad, I’m going to spare you my potty training stories today, but @ Friar I’d just say You’re not missing anything. I’ve been wiping my children’s bottoms for the last seven years and it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. :-D :-D

    Dave Fowlers last blog post..The Truth, The Whole Truth And Nothing But the Truth

  3. Writer Dad says:

    Natural: I couldn’t agree more. If you give them the understanding first, the training is easy. Honestly, they won’t want to mess themselves.

    Friar: Poop Quest is perfect.

    Steph: No apologies. I was just yanking your chain.

    I can’t believe you’d let the species die. If it’s a three-hundred-fifty pound, one-eyed amputee who smells like sweaty sack, then we’re probably talking about forty or fifty seconds, and you don’t have to look.

    Dave: Ha. That’s funny, and thanks for throwing down for Number One and Two it! I hope you like it.

  4. Writer Dad says:

    Natural: I couldn’t agree more. If you give them the understanding first, the training is easy. Honestly, they won’t want to mess themselves.

    Friar: Poop Quest is perfect.

    Steph: No apologies. I was just yanking your chain.

    I can’t believe you’d let the species die. If it’s a three-hundred-fifty pound, one-eyed amputee who smells like sweaty sack, then we’re probably talking about forty or fifty seconds, and you don’t have to look.

    Dave: Ha. That’s funny, and thanks for throwing down for Number One and Two it! I hope you like it.

  5. Friar says:

    @Dave

    (Ouch!) ;-(

    Sounds like a pretty shitty job to me!

    Friars last blog post..Forbidden Laughter: Times I’ve Laughed when I Shouldn’t Have.

  6. Friar says:

    @Dave

    (Ouch!) ;-(

    Sounds like a pretty shitty job to me!

    Friars last blog post..Forbidden Laughter: Times I’ve Laughed when I Shouldn’t Have.

  7. Dave Fowler says:

    Writer Dad,

    I like it very much. Looks great and reads well. My kids are going to love it.

    I left a request for a follow up over at BloggerDad.

    No pressure. As long as you get it written and drawn by next Friday.

    @ Friar – LMAO!! You’re right but I can promise you it’s not pretty

    Dave Fowlers last blog post..The Truth, The Whole Truth And Nothing But the Truth

  8. Dave Fowler says:

    Writer Dad,

    I like it very much. Looks great and reads well. My kids are going to love it.

    I left a request for a follow up over at BloggerDad.

    No pressure. As long as you get it written and drawn by next Friday.

    @ Friar – LMAO!! You’re right but I can promise you it’s not pretty

    Dave Fowlers last blog post..The Truth, The Whole Truth And Nothing But the Truth

  9. Interesting. I was pushed into everything growing up and spent most of my life trying to fix all the mistakes I made because I wasn’t ready. So, in protest, at a few months past three years old, we potty-trained our son.

    Of course, it turns out he was plenty ready because he figured it out in about nine hours.

    :)

  10. Interesting. I was pushed into everything growing up and spent most of my life trying to fix all the mistakes I made because I wasn’t ready. So, in protest, at a few months past three years old, we potty-trained our son.

    Of course, it turns out he was plenty ready because he figured it out in about nine hours.

    :)

  11. Friar says:

    Okay, I can’t resist…

    You Mommies and Daddies have jbeen askin’ for it.

    Check out the potty training video on Youtube:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFVoLz88hiU

    Friars last blog post..August Wrap-Up

  12. Friar says:

    Okay, I can’t resist…

    You Mommies and Daddies have jbeen askin’ for it.

    Check out the potty training video on Youtube:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFVoLz88hiU

    Friars last blog post..August Wrap-Up

  13. Ian Parker says:

    Friar,

    I second the title “Poop-Quest”, for what it’s worth.

    WD,

    Once again, I will be quite prepared when it comes time to address this issue with my own children.

    Isn’t it funny how we need to be potty trained. Compared to the relative ease with which we learn other tasks when growing up, it’s funny that this “task” doesn’t come more readily. I suppose it’s because we are un-training several months of the “poop in your pants” paradigm. Really, it’s a lot like breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a good one.

    I’m thinking too much about poop, aren’t I?

    Ian Parkers last blog post..440,000 Sony VAIO Recall

  14. Ian Parker says:

    Friar,

    I second the title “Poop-Quest”, for what it’s worth.

    WD,

    Once again, I will be quite prepared when it comes time to address this issue with my own children.

    Isn’t it funny how we need to be potty trained. Compared to the relative ease with which we learn other tasks when growing up, it’s funny that this “task” doesn’t come more readily. I suppose it’s because we are un-training several months of the “poop in your pants” paradigm. Really, it’s a lot like breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a good one.

    I’m thinking too much about poop, aren’t I?

    Ian Parkers last blog post..440,000 Sony VAIO Recall

  15. Writer Dad says:

    Friar: Batta bump Chssh

    Dave: Thanks for the purchase. I’m thrilled that you enjoyed it.

    Dereck: We should never force our kids into it; just explain things to them and lead them down the correct path at the earliest opportunity.

    Friar: That video was awesome, but that little tiger was pontificating about his poo. With that much language, he should’ve been dropping his deuce in the dish a long time ago.

    Ian: Ian, you are awesome for several reasons. Here are two. First, I’ve never heard it explained that way, but you’re absolutely right. It is retraining; breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a good one. Second, you don’t have kids. Your purchase is a total show of support. Thank you so much, from both me and Blogger Dad.

  16. Writer Dad says:

    Friar: Batta bump Chssh

    Dave: Thanks for the purchase. I’m thrilled that you enjoyed it.

    Dereck: We should never force our kids into it; just explain things to them and lead them down the correct path at the earliest opportunity.

    Friar: That video was awesome, but that little tiger was pontificating about his poo. With that much language, he should’ve been dropping his deuce in the dish a long time ago.

    Ian: Ian, you are awesome for several reasons. Here are two. First, I’ve never heard it explained that way, but you’re absolutely right. It is retraining; breaking a bad habit and replacing it with a good one. Second, you don’t have kids. Your purchase is a total show of support. Thank you so much, from both me and Blogger Dad.

  17. Mr Moderator says:

    I wish I had seen that about 6 months ago… Our boy just turned 4 in August and he was a handful when it came to pooing… taking a leak was a piece of cake.. once I got him to stop whipping it out on the playground!!!

    He finally got it one night when he went to bed saying he had to poo, but just couldnt do it sitting there… So he comes downstairs 30 mins later with underwear full of poo… So I told him to go clean it up!

    That did the trick, after getting his clothes off, getting in the shower cleaning himself and getting dressed again I asked him if that was fun… he said “No, ITS YUCKY!” Well there ya go, we’re all tired of cleaning it up too so from now on it’s your job!

    Not an accident since lol.

    I write a Political websiteblogforums and throughly enjoyed reading your posts.

    Mr Moderators last blog post..Factcheck:Facts seem to be rare commodity at RNC convention -"Obama stuck to the facts, except

  18. Mr Moderator says:

    I wish I had seen that about 6 months ago… Our boy just turned 4 in August and he was a handful when it came to pooing… taking a leak was a piece of cake.. once I got him to stop whipping it out on the playground!!!

    He finally got it one night when he went to bed saying he had to poo, but just couldnt do it sitting there… So he comes downstairs 30 mins later with underwear full of poo… So I told him to go clean it up!

    That did the trick, after getting his clothes off, getting in the shower cleaning himself and getting dressed again I asked him if that was fun… he said “No, ITS YUCKY!” Well there ya go, we’re all tired of cleaning it up too so from now on it’s your job!

    Not an accident since lol.

    I write a Political website\blog\forums and throughly enjoyed reading your posts.

    Mr Moderators last blog post..Factcheck:Facts seem to be rare commodity at RNC convention -"Obama stuck to the facts, except

  19. Today I can kill two birds with one stone (did I mention my husband was an ornithologist).

    I can support a fellow blogger and get a wee-book for my son. He’s two. He’s stubborn. And he is refusing the use the potty.

    Write on my virtual friend!!!

    Stacey / CreateaBalances last blog post..How to Synchronize Your Authentic Voice

  20. steph says:

    PoopQuest…but it sounds like we’re on a quest for poop! And I’ve already established I have enough shit in my life to deal with!

    :)

    Friar: I see some cartoons and funny kids books coming out of this. Let’s write a book called PoopQuest: an aunt and uncle dish out the shit on potty training.

    stephs last blog post..Letting Go

  21. Today I can kill two birds with one stone (did I mention my husband was an ornithologist).

    I can support a fellow blogger and get a wee-book for my son. He’s two. He’s stubborn. And he is refusing the use the potty.

    Write on my virtual friend!!!

    Stacey / CreateaBalances last blog post..How to Synchronize Your Authentic Voice

  22. steph says:

    PoopQuest…but it sounds like we’re on a quest for poop! And I’ve already established I have enough shit in my life to deal with!

    :)

    Friar: I see some cartoons and funny kids books coming out of this. Let’s write a book called PoopQuest: an aunt and uncle dish out the shit on potty training.

    stephs last blog post..Letting Go

  23. Rita says:

    Writer Dad,
    Well, there you go…let Friar in the door and you’ll get ALL the poop you need!
    Congratulations on your book. I know it will be a HUGE success. You should try “Take an Editor out to lunch week,” you know.
    Regarding potty training, parents – and kids – know when the time has come. The only problem is that they frequently disagree on it when that time IS.
    We used to line under the sheet with those disposable long sheets that have the blue backing and are waterproof. They’re inexpensive, and they save the cost of a new mattress. Neither of my kids would sleep on those “waterproof” mattress covers. To slippery, I guess, even when covered by a sheet!
    Our one saving grace was that our little one “trained herself.” She’d follow big sis EVERYWHERE, including the toilet. Not even a potty for her – just one of those “seats” on the toilet so she wouldn’t fall in. And her favorite part: flushing her poops away and screaming “bye-bye poopies!” Occasionally, when the big one is home for a break, she’ll embarass the little one, who is now 17 with a “did you say “bye-bye” to your poopies,” when Liz comes out of the bathroom. It’s only funny, however, when Liz has some friends over – especially guys – at the time. I guess big sis considers it “payback” for having no privacy when she was 6.
    Rita

    Oh – and I checked – the quote citation seems correct. :-)

  24. Rita says:

    Writer Dad,
    Well, there you go…let Friar in the door and you’ll get ALL the poop you need!
    Congratulations on your book. I know it will be a HUGE success. You should try “Take an Editor out to lunch week,” you know.
    Regarding potty training, parents – and kids – know when the time has come. The only problem is that they frequently disagree on it when that time IS.
    We used to line under the sheet with those disposable long sheets that have the blue backing and are waterproof. They’re inexpensive, and they save the cost of a new mattress. Neither of my kids would sleep on those “waterproof” mattress covers. To slippery, I guess, even when covered by a sheet!
    Our one saving grace was that our little one “trained herself.” She’d follow big sis EVERYWHERE, including the toilet. Not even a potty for her – just one of those “seats” on the toilet so she wouldn’t fall in. And her favorite part: flushing her poops away and screaming “bye-bye poopies!” Occasionally, when the big one is home for a break, she’ll embarass the little one, who is now 17 with a “did you say “bye-bye” to your poopies,” when Liz comes out of the bathroom. It’s only funny, however, when Liz has some friends over – especially guys – at the time. I guess big sis considers it “payback” for having no privacy when she was 6.
    Rita

    Oh – and I checked – the quote citation seems correct. :-)

  25. Lance says:

    I”m of the belief that early is good when it comes to potty training. And no two children are the same. Our first was the easiest (and we didn’t even know what we were doing), our second took a little longer, and our third just seemed to drag on and on (when we should have been experts!). So much for that theory!

    Lances last blog post..Lost In This Great Big World

  26. Lance says:

    I”m of the belief that early is good when it comes to potty training. And no two children are the same. Our first was the easiest (and we didn’t even know what we were doing), our second took a little longer, and our third just seemed to drag on and on (when we should have been experts!). So much for that theory!

    Lances last blog post..Lost In This Great Big World

  27. Writer Dad says:

    Mr. Moderator: If I may say, you handled that perfectly. I would love to look at your site. I’ll be by tomorrow.

    Stacey: Stacey, thanks for the purchase. I really appreciate it. Please let me know how he likes it. I’m really interested. I’ve never read it to a child with pictures before. It’s been one of the favorites because all the children know what number one and two are, so they all say “EEEWWW” and laugh, but with an actual picture of a putty, I think they would’ve gone nuts. Thanks again.

    Steph: You guys should totally team up. It would be awesome.

    Rita: Enough about poo. Anyone who is reading this should know that Rita was offered a deal for her first book today. It’s a really big deal, and a tremendous honor. Everyone think, high five. Congratulations, Rita.

    Lance: Our second took longer than the first. We actually can’t take too much credit for Mia. She was only eighteen months, but she told us before we told her.

  28. Marelisa says:

    OK, well, I don’t have children but I guess this is something to store in the “for when I do have children” file. You potty trained other people’s children as well as your own? Wow. When my sister is changing her son’s diaper I literally run from the room, yelling for her to wait until I’ve at least reached the kitchen at the other side of the house.

    Marelisas last blog post..20 Ways to Raise Your IQ

  29. Writer Dad says:

    Mr. Moderator: If I may say, you handled that perfectly. I would love to look at your site. I’ll be by tomorrow.

    Stacey: Stacey, thanks for the purchase. I really appreciate it. Please let me know how he likes it. I’m really interested. I’ve never read it to a child with pictures before. It’s been one of the favorites because all the children know what number one and two are, so they all say “EEEWWW” and laugh, but with an actual picture of a putty, I think they would’ve gone nuts. Thanks again.

    Steph: You guys should totally team up. It would be awesome.

    Rita: Enough about poo. Anyone who is reading this should know that Rita was offered a deal for her first book today. It’s a really big deal, and a tremendous honor. Everyone think, high five. Congratulations, Rita.

    Lance: Our second took longer than the first. We actually can’t take too much credit for Mia. She was only eighteen months, but she told us before we told her.

  30. Marelisa says:

    OK, well, I don’t have children but I guess this is something to store in the “for when I do have children” file. You potty trained other people’s children as well as your own? Wow. When my sister is changing her son’s diaper I literally run from the room, yelling for her to wait until I’ve at least reached the kitchen at the other side of the house.

    Marelisas last blog post..20 Ways to Raise Your IQ

  31. Sanjay says:

    Hey, I’ve been thinking of starting it’th my 2y3m son. He’ll prolly learn from me then his mother cos I give’im more allowances ;)
    Ur blog has jus made my resolve stronger.

    Sanjays last blog post..CAUGHT IN AN ACT

  32. Sanjay says:

    Hey, I’ve been thinking of starting it’th my 2y3m son. He’ll prolly learn from me then his mother cos I give’im more allowances ;)
    Ur blog has jus made my resolve stronger.

    Sanjays last blog post..CAUGHT IN AN ACT

  33. Rita says:

    Writer Dad,
    I’m touched. Truly. But I’ll let my shrink take care of that…
    No – seriously – thanks for the plug. I TRULY appreciate it, and it was kind of you to mention while you’re selling YOUR book (which I guess I’m going to have to purchase now, even though the kids are 17 and 20!)

    You’re next, author, author!
    :-)

    Rita

  34. Rita says:

    Writer Dad,
    I’m touched. Truly. But I’ll let my shrink take care of that…
    No – seriously – thanks for the plug. I TRULY appreciate it, and it was kind of you to mention while you’re selling YOUR book (which I guess I’m going to have to purchase now, even though the kids are 17 and 20!)

    You’re next, author, author!
    :-)

    Rita

  35. Rita says:

    @ Steph,
    Sorry WD, but I’m going to use a moment of your comment space.

    Steph,
    Your decision not to have kids is greatly admired. I, too, never felt a “maternal instinct.” Trust me, my kids, who are 17 and 20 (as I just said) would TOTALLY back me up on that point! :-)

    Rita

    Ritas last blog post..MY NOVEL IS GOING TO BE PUBLISHED!

  36. Rita says:

    @ Steph,
    Sorry WD, but I’m going to use a moment of your comment space.

    Steph,
    Your decision not to have kids is greatly admired. I, too, never felt a “maternal instinct.” Trust me, my kids, who are 17 and 20 (as I just said) would TOTALLY back me up on that point! :-)

    Rita

    Ritas last blog post..MY NOVEL IS GOING TO BE PUBLISHED!

  37. BloggerDad says:

    Thanks to everyone who purchased the wee-book. To those that didn’t, may you rot in hell.

    Just kidding, of course!

    It was my honor to draw WriterDad’s story and I look forward to future collaborations. I also appreciate the kind words from commenters regarding the illustrations.

    BloggerDads last blog post..When worlds collide

  38. BloggerDad says:

    Thanks to everyone who purchased the wee-book. To those that didn’t, may you rot in hell.

    Just kidding, of course!

    It was my honor to draw WriterDad’s story and I look forward to future collaborations. I also appreciate the kind words from commenters regarding the illustrations.

    BloggerDads last blog post..When worlds collide

  39. Sunil Pathak says:

    Hi WD

    your blog is converting in to a Mom and Dad only blog day by day (i am not complaining though)

    i was in search of such blog (the day of me being a dad is coming near day by day) to train my self as batter dad

    about this post well it makes no seance to me at this time but may be when my 1st baby turn 2 i’ll digg your archive for this one :)

    Sunil Pathaks last blog post..Let These Plugins Help You Build Community On Your Blog

  40. Sunil Pathak says:

    Hi WD

    your blog is converting in to a Mom and Dad only blog day by day (i am not complaining though)

    i was in search of such blog (the day of me being a dad is coming near day by day) to train my self as batter dad

    about this post well it makes no seance to me at this time but may be when my 1st baby turn 2 i’ll digg your archive for this one :)

    Sunil Pathaks last blog post..Let These Plugins Help You Build Community On Your Blog

  41. Writer Dad says:

    Marelisa: It’s part of the job. We start teaching them as infants, so it’s in our best interest to train them as young as possible. But they can always do it.

    Sanjay: I don’t know your son, but based on his age, I’d be surprised if he wasn’t ready. He just has to believe that he is.

    Rita: Don’t ever apologize about using common space. That’s what it’s for. As long as people are polite, I adore the exchange. I agree with you about Steph. My sister is the same way, and it makes her more awesome, not less.

    Blogger Dad: Again, your illustrations were off the hook, and I can’t wait for our next one.

    Sunil: Don’t worry, I have a lot of stuff lined up that has nothing to do with being a mom or dad. Thanks for the input, though.

  42. Writer Dad says:

    Marelisa: It’s part of the job. We start teaching them as infants, so it’s in our best interest to train them as young as possible. But they can always do it.

    Sanjay: I don’t know your son, but based on his age, I’d be surprised if he wasn’t ready. He just has to believe that he is.

    Rita: Don’t ever apologize about using common space. That’s what it’s for. As long as people are polite, I adore the exchange. I agree with you about Steph. My sister is the same way, and it makes her more awesome, not less.

    Blogger Dad: Again, your illustrations were off the hook, and I can’t wait for our next one.

    Sunil: Don’t worry, I have a lot of stuff lined up that has nothing to do with being a mom or dad. Thanks for the input, though.

  43. steph says:

    Rita: Thanks. :)

    And your kids might back you up now, but give them a couple of years and they’ll be thanking you for having them…and keeping them! :)

    stephs last blog post..Letting Go

  44. steph says:

    Rita: Thanks. :)

    And your kids might back you up now, but give them a couple of years and they’ll be thanking you for having them…and keeping them! :)

    stephs last blog post..Letting Go

  45. steph says:

    WD: when you call me awesome, it makes my day. Especially when it’s for things others put down.

    Thanks!

    stephs last blog post..Making a List and Checking it Twice

  46. steph says:

    WD: when you call me awesome, it makes my day. Especially when it’s for things others put down.

    Thanks!

    stephs last blog post..Making a List and Checking it Twice

  47. Rita says:

    @Steph,
    What I said about admiring your rights to NOT have children is absolutely true. That you do not feel the “Maternal Instinct” is your choice, and, frankly, nobody else’s to question! Though it’s not as meaningful coming from me as from WD, I believe that you are awesome as well: to take a position that is contrary to many and publicly acknowledge it with pride IS awesome.
    As to what I said about my OWN kids – no, I was NOT sure that I was “mothering material” either, but my husband and I decided to give it a go. Once I held that first baby in my arms, however (I HATED being pregnant, btw…I felt like I could never be alone!), all of a sudden feelings that I NEVER thought I had came to me like a tornado. I have NEVER for a second regretted having my children – and they know it darn well!
    That is NOT to imply that the same thing would happen to you. Stand firm in your beliefs – at least for now. But, as with everything else, don’t EVER feel that you can’t change your mind, should that happen. And if it doesn’t? More power to you! There are enough “unwanted” children in this world that you should be applauded for knowing how you feel – and not acting irresponsibly to “follow the crowd.”

    @ Blogger Dad,
    I believe that you should be getting a LOT more credit (and I DON’T mean from Writer Dad!) for your amazing pictures! Children’s books JUST DON’T WORK without great illustrations that BOTH parents AND children can relate to! GREAT JOB!

    @Writer Dad,
    Hey. Just figured I’d say “hi” since this IS still your blog site. Right?

    Rita

    Ritas last blog post..MY NOVEL IS GOING TO BE PUBLISHED!

  48. Rita says:

    @Steph,
    What I said about admiring your rights to NOT have children is absolutely true. That you do not feel the “Maternal Instinct” is your choice, and, frankly, nobody else’s to question! Though it’s not as meaningful coming from me as from WD, I believe that you are awesome as well: to take a position that is contrary to many and publicly acknowledge it with pride IS awesome.
    As to what I said about my OWN kids – no, I was NOT sure that I was “mothering material” either, but my husband and I decided to give it a go. Once I held that first baby in my arms, however (I HATED being pregnant, btw…I felt like I could never be alone!), all of a sudden feelings that I NEVER thought I had came to me like a tornado. I have NEVER for a second regretted having my children – and they know it darn well!
    That is NOT to imply that the same thing would happen to you. Stand firm in your beliefs – at least for now. But, as with everything else, don’t EVER feel that you can’t change your mind, should that happen. And if it doesn’t? More power to you! There are enough “unwanted” children in this world that you should be applauded for knowing how you feel – and not acting irresponsibly to “follow the crowd.”

    @ Blogger Dad,
    I believe that you should be getting a LOT more credit (and I DON’T mean from Writer Dad!) for your amazing pictures! Children’s books JUST DON’T WORK without great illustrations that BOTH parents AND children can relate to! GREAT JOB!

    @Writer Dad,
    Hey. Just figured I’d say “hi” since this IS still your blog site. Right?

    Rita

    Ritas last blog post..MY NOVEL IS GOING TO BE PUBLISHED!

  49. I started potty training my daughter at 18 months. She always had an interest in using the big girl potty though. In fact, she wouldn’t use the training potty. She would only sit on the toilet. So I started sitting her on there frequently. Before she was two she was potty trained, luckily, potty training was very easy for us.

    Shamelessly Sassys last blog post..Someday

  50. I started potty training my daughter at 18 months. She always had an interest in using the big girl potty though. In fact, she wouldn’t use the training potty. She would only sit on the toilet. So I started sitting her on there frequently. Before she was two she was potty trained, luckily, potty training was very easy for us.

    Shamelessly Sassys last blog post..Someday

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