The Car Doctor

June 15, 2009

img_1214“…And then we had to find a place to sit because the phone rang and the man who had to answer it got really really busy and he told us he would be right back and so Daddy said why don’t we just sit down for a minute, so then we sat down and waited and waited, but I don’t remember what the clock said because I couldn’t tell time yet, but it was a long long time, but not as long as a whole movie.”

The word movie barely made it out. Max had to draw a breath before adding to his barrage of never ending verbiage. In that single second pause, I managed to both lock eyes with Cindy and glance at our own clock just long enough to note that the story had been unfolding across a long twelve minutes.

“Then we had get up from our seats and the car doctor put the Sienna on one of those big metal poles that makes the car go really really high in the air so you can see underneath. What is it called again?” Max wrinkled his nose and shrugged his shoulders, the final sentence ending in a squeak, just as it always does when capped with a question mark.

Cindy and I glanced at one another again, neither of us with anything close to a clue. “I’m not sure buddy,” I said, a bit embarrassed I didn’t know, but also a little glad. Though I love my son to see me as the Lord of all Vocabulary, my not knowing underlines the simple truth that we are all constant learners. “Why don’t we call it the car doctor pole,” I said.

“That’s a great idea, Dad!” Max agreed. I could swear his smile added 5 watts to the already bright bulb. “Then we had to walk home, but first we had to give the man the key and after we gave the man the key he said thank you and his manners were really great, and then we left the car doctor and we had to walk all the way home.” Max paused, lifting his little hand in front of his quickly growing face. He stared at his palm with all five fingers spread for about a second before lowering his thumb. “It was four blocks,” Max declared with a nod. “We walked four blocks from the car doctor and then we were back home.”

Mia, Cindy and I all waited, allowing the silence to settle, wanting to make certain this wasn’t one of the false finishes we’d already sat through several times before. “I’m done with my story,” Max sang more than said. We all clapped.

For fifteen minutes we’d listened as Max told us a teeny tiny tale elongated toward infinity about the time we had to take our car to the car doctor. The magic of his narrative didn’t lay in the details of his delivery, though they were abundant enough. It was in the fact that our little boy, a few days shy of his fifth birthday, was telling us about something that had happened to him two years earlier, when the scope of his vocabulary lay in three digits rather than five.

Max related the story with the eager enthusiasm I might have expected if we had just returned from the car doctor ten minutes earlier, but two years had done nothing to strip the immediacy. A born storyteller, my son was simply waiting for the right time to release his reams of waiting thoughts.

Memory is a remarkable thing.

Great storytellers deserve an audience and performers must never take their listeners for granted. My son has manners it seems that nothing, at least right now, can ever seem to melt.

“Thank you for being patient and listening to my story,” he said.

Thank you, Max.

Writer Dad

Max is turning 5 this week, next week we’re going to celebrate with you. He’s been dying to talk to the audience again since one second after the last time. I promised him for his birthday he could.

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  • Like father, like son.

    I love this blog :D
  • I guess Max takes after his dad...

    Sean, being an admiring parent myself, I think the world needs more of us. Your son should grow to be a happy chap with this kind of pride and support. It's good you're getting him used to the limelight through your blog.

    Happy birthday Max (albeit a couple of days late)!

    Hang on! He shares my daughter's birthday, except she just turned 8. Here's something I wrote about her: http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/emotional-i...
  • Beautiful post. It just is more evidence that we need to be conscious of our every interaction with our children, because who knows what will stand out to them in their memories? It's not always the trips to Disneyland or an extravagant Christmas that mark their past. It's the simple things like weaving morning glories around the fence or walking four blocks home or the man who used good manners. Or more importantly, the mom and dad who listened to his story.

    Happy, Happy Birthday, Max! It's a wonderful time to be five!
  • "I told Max it was a hydraulic lift last night and he was SO excited. The little things make him the happiest."

    Cool!

    and, you're welcome.
  • I could so hear his telling of this tale. Our Little Man is becoming a story teller, too and I just love to listen.

    So... when will you post the earthquake and the octopus story?? ;)
  • Mike: Thanks, Mike! I told Max it was a hydraulic lift last night and he was SO excited. The little things make him the happiest.

    Lori: When children feel listened to, amazing things happen to their confidence. And a child who believes in themselves is a child who can do anything.

    Hayden: I LOVE listening to Max. He is an AWESOME story teller. Yesterday he told a story about an earthquake killing an octopus at the beach. It was really, really good.

    Tricia: Thanks, Tricia! Us too. The actual party is tomorrow, but there's a specific story he wants to tell to the WD readers. It should be a lot of fun.

    SingleParentDad: Nice of you to say! I'm super excited to share the seat with Max, and Maxis presently foaming at the mouth in anticipation.
  • Laurie
    Turning 5 this week? My oldest turned 20 yesterday even though I just birthed the kid. "Time flies" is not an exaggeration. Memories are so much fun to share. Thanks for giving us a glimpse into Max's story.
  • Hi, Max - can't wait to share your birthday!

    And thanks, Max's dad (and Mia's) for not just giving your kids the gift of listening, but for sharing with us your gift of recreating what you hear. This was a lovely post. Once again, I felt like you and Cindy had let us walk alongside you, invisible to the kids, but privileged to be there. I still have that quote in front of me that I shared with you earlier today; spookily, it fits here, too!

    Holy listening - to listen another’s soul into life, into a condition of disclosure and discovery, may be almost the greatest service that any human being ever performs for another. ~ Douglas Steere
  • Cool and you are correct. The memory of a near five-year-old is amazing. And listening is an all unappreciated art. I look forward to putting my skill to good use, here, next week.
  • I'm so thankful you're one of those rare parents who actually take the time to listen to such stories! Yesterday, I watched a overly bored and too-macho-to-listen type dad in WalMart as his daughter tried to pass on her enthusiasm about something. No luck.

    "Lord of all Vocabulary" funny -- so glad you also let him know you are learning.
  • This was a wonderful story, Max and Writer Dad. Looking forward to the birthday party.
  • So exciting! Happy Birthday to Max!!

    I can't even tell you how often I see parents interrupting their children, just trying to get it over with, guessing what they are trying to say. KUDOS TO YOU for actually being willing to take the time to listen to what he had to say.
  • It's a hydraulic lift.

    Cute story.

    Wonder where he gets the talent and the good looks... ;)
  • Trina: He is SO excited for his birthday. He's been talking about it for about ten weeks, with a constant countdown. It is adorable. I can't wait for him to sit on the stool next to me as he says Hi. He's been very patient.

    Marylin: I'm looking forward to him celebrating as well. It should be fun for all of us.

    J.D: Thanks, J.D.! Max is one of the most natural learners I've ever known. He makes me want to learn more by simply being alive.
  • > underlines the simple truth that we are all constant learners.
    Well said.

    Happy Birthday to Max!
  • My gosh, what a wonderful young man you are Max, what a great story! Looking forward to celebrating your 5th birthday with you! :)
  • Trina
    Oh, I could almost hear his voice (well, a little boys voice at least) as the words bubbled forth, and then he thanked you for your patience - melt, melt, melt. I could hear your pride too. Kids are so much more attentive than some realize, both good and bad... Looking forward to more from Max, 5 is so fun, all those digits can stand proud and unbending.
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