• Hi Sean. "But doing my best doesn’t always mean doing my most." Isn't THAT the truth!
    I love the concept of "Finding Friday". Sounds to me like you've got a good thing going and why wouldn't you want to live absolutely every minute of it. Hey how bout this... shift your perspective from doing your most, to "being" your most.
  • Marc: LOL. We need threaded comments at WD for just such banter!

    Stephen: You have, my friend, but when a fellow skating along the razor's edge like I have for the last year, you just can't hear it enough.

    J.D: True that, JD. Life is a river. Like the water it is before us, behind us, and forever bending around us.

    Hayden: Aren't we lucky we have people to temper our worst qualities and accentuate our best?

    Laurie: Yep, and that's the biggest problem with the online world - too many people promising everything overnight. And that greedy part that's inside us all is willing to believe it.

    Blake: WAY too quickly. Though I love the technology, I admit I sometimes love it more than I should and got benefit from taking a big step back. I don't want to ever wonder where the time went.

    Jake: LOL, me too. I'm fortunate I have Cindy to constantly remind me.

    Janice: Yes, Lori said that beautifully. Can you believe WD is going to have it's first birthday in another couple of weeks? Me neither. I don't know if it's unfolding all according to plan, but I know I wouldn't want it any other way.
  • I loved this one first time round; it's even more powerful now that we know how your life has been unfolding. I enjoyed everyone's comments, too. Lori's "scope creep" just about sums up my life back in June.

    You know I love living a life full of aware, expanded moments, but one thing we've always done on top of that is celebrate the ritual of what I think of as holy Fridays. Pizza, wine, chocolate, a DVD and sitting in a cosy room, feeling happy to be alive and blessing my family.
  • I've tried to find Friday before, yet alas, it's always buried under all the papers and marketing junk mail on my desk.
  • I think I love technology. And I can make a lot of excuses as to why it's good and helps me connect and is such a usable tool. I just got an iphone recently. And it's a small bundle of goodness that brings even more to my fingertips. But I can't dictate my life and give me more steps. Nor can I let it force me to skip steps.

    And kids seem to grow up so quickly these days. They have had steps removed from their world it seems. Or else they run them much faster than ever.
  • Laurie
    Skipping steps to quicken the pace to our goal is a hazard to be avoided. There is a reason the butterfly must struggle from its chrysalis. In avoiding the struggle to met his new world, the butterfly signs his death certificate. People fall for the quick and easy all the time. The quick way to weight loss, to riches, to love. You just can't put everything into life's microwave and get what you want after the ding. Thanks for the reminder to not only take every step but be present while I'm stepping!
  • I can totally relate. Being forced to wait for something when I want to get it done like yesterday is extremely difficult for me. Chris has been a great match for me, too, in that regard. He is SO patient.
  • It reminds me of my guiding principle that life's not static.

    When I had a static view, I tried to design life more like a perfect piece of art that I could frame on a wall and protect. Life is more like a river. It keeps flowing. I can look for the paths of growth and make the most of the unexpected or hop to the side when I need a breather. This active view changed my perspective on a lot of things. It's not about mass accumulation of knowledge or wealth up front. Instead, it's about sustainable results for the long haul where life is a marathon with a bunch of sprints inside. As one of my favorite mentors put it, "live for today, but plan to live 100 years."
  • Sean, great article! I'm impatient as hell by nature, but I am slowly learning to be patient. I agree that children can help a lot but they can't cure the disease. Have I ever told you I love your writing style? :-)
  • Oh, so sorry Sean. That's another downside of rushing around, the tendency to drop things ;)
  • Terrific post, so appropriate to the need for all of us to slow down to see the journey as an end in itself and take the time to look at each other instead of rushing by one another toward the destination.

    jan geronimo - I think you've created a definite quotable quote there - "Every online activity is anathema to reflection". I've recently unplugged for all but a few minutes a day and its been liberating.
  • Tracy: I think this is a reminder any one of us breathing could use.

    Marc: I'm right there with you, my man. And you probably just dropped my favorite comment of the day across all my sites.

    Lori: I love that description; wonderfully apt. I'll add Dyer's movie to the queue. Thanks for the recommendation.

    Jan: Isn't that the truth? Cindy helps me unplug for sure. If not for her, I probably never would and my eyes would just eventually roll from my face.
  • Every online activity is anathema to reflection. And with the desktop plugged in? Tracy is right work or what passes for work does expand to fill an entire day. That's a lovely and very useful tip. We need to heed Cindy's wise words: not to skip a step. And seek our own Friday, too. Thanks, Sean.
  • Way to go Cindy! And way to go Sean for listening!

    An expanding project is often said to have "scope creep," which I find to be an apt description.

    I highly recommend Dr. Wayne Dyer's book Excuses Begone and his movie, The Shift. Both have helped Greg and I "find our Fridays."
  • I am, by all accounts, an inordinately patient man. Few are the things that can test my resolve.

    Unfortunately one of those things is blogging. Well actually it's the Internet. OK, OK! It's technology in general. I digress...

    I'm guilty of rushing through blog posts (yes even yours - sorry!). I don't take the time to read things properly, let the information be absorbed and processed before I rush into typing out a reply.

    Apart from this particular post.

    I won't lie, it started out at its usual breakneck speed, going in full throttle, my eyes devouring each word and moving on to the next one with barely a registration in my concious mind (I'm a speed reader I get away with it I guess). But then someone slammed their foot on the break pedal. Someone named Cindy Platt with her words, “We mustn’t ever skip our steps.”

    So thank you Cindy, and thank you Sean. This has been a very welcome and timely reminder.

    You two should start a website together, collective-wisdom.com ;)
  • Wonderful, Sean. I am prone to letting work expand to fill my entire day so this is a good reminder for me.
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