Behind Their Eyes

If you’re interested in yesterday’s conversation, it’s still going strong.  I’ve gathered your best questions, and thrown them down, but I’ve no Idea if Benji’s bound to bounce them.

“Childhood is measured out by sounds and smells and sights, before the dark hour of reason grows.”  

~John Betjeman, Summoned by Bells

I don’t think there’s a sum I wouldn’t part with for the chance to live inside my children’s heads, either one, and even if only for half an hour. 

I’m totally serious. 

I’d drive to the bank, stack my collateral, beg for a loan, then walk home and figure out the best way to take care of the interest before it buried me to bones. 

Whatever I saw from behind those eyes, I’m sure, would be exponentially worth it. 

I can only ponder how my children view a world unfolding three feet from the ground.  By the time they’re old enough to really break it down for me, they’ll no longer be focusing behind the same lens. 

I helped make them, I certainly know them, and I believe I’ve a pretty good idea about how they string their thoughts together.  But it’s been a long time since I was as little as they are now, and I’ve long since forgotten what it’s like to peer at the world in front of me, without so much as a single breath of cynicism. 

I cannot imagine feeling, at my age, anything so innocent. 

When they’re grown, I hope I haven’t lost the wonder of musing the machinations of their minds.  I hope, when my children are my age now, and Daisy and I are cradling our grandchildren between us for a long, anticipated weekend, that I’m still wondering.  

Of course, I won’t be able to see any more clearly into the mind’s of those still too small to speak, or too tiny to know the minutia of poverty, crime, and deceit. 

I will not be able to see through the eyes of my grandchildren, so I’ll turn my eyes to Mia and Max, and see the world as they do.  It will be easier by then.  Our long histories will have woven together with the unrelenting fabric of shared experience.  Their first world view, born beneath the shade of Daisy and myself. 

So when I’m wishing I could see the world as my grandchildren do, but peering from the perspective of my own brood, it will be the perfect time to ask myself…

Do I like what I see? 

Writer Dad

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Hi, My Name is Sean (Not Seen).

“Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years.  We grow old by deserting our ideals.  Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.” 

~Samuel Ullman

I’d like to thank my parents for the name.  It’s nice.  Like my nose, I never appreciated its true character until I was old enough to understand that looking or being like anyone else is the worst possible purgatory.  

Last week, I penned the most significant thing I’ve thus far written.  Not the best, but certainly the most monumental.  

It was a letter to lift my family from one hilltop to the next.

Three years ago, Daisy and I left our jobs.  We were working too long, not moving forward, and needed life to graduate. 

We opened a preschool.  Daisy left her job at the school district, I left mine at the flower shop.  Daisy was leaving security, benefits, and a full classroom.  I, my family and the daily soul food of a million petals (The shop is gorgeous.  Flowers EVERYWHERE).

Our tiny school is wonderful, but it’s impossible to move forward if we cannot ever take a step.  Workdays are ten hours, plus set up and tear down; five days a week, with no vacation outside a long weekend, for the last three years.  

During this time, the children (students) are constantly learning.  No television, ever.  The children get music, math, reading, and writing, and all of it’s fun.  Computer time is given to every student two years and over.  We do an outstanding job, but it is positively exhausting. 

A lot of comments have questioned how I balance family life with writing.  Presently, not well.  Not as I should.  

That’s what this is about.

I write when my children sleep, or on the weekend.  This means sleeping at midnight, and wearing the Macbook as permanent weekend accessory.  

Neither is acceptable.

Daisy and I are closing our small family preschool at the end of this year; hitching the wagon with the young ones, and heading into frontier. 

My heart tumbled as I wrote the farewell.  The week tangled my stomach, as it seemed the sand took longer to slip through the glass.  

Friday evening, we hit send.

Response was fairly immediate, and overwhelmingly positive.  Our parents, though sad, were thrilled for us.

I started this blog as Writer Dad instead of Sean, because I didn’t know where writing would take me.  If it removed me from the families whose lives I am a part of five days a week, I needed to know they’d hear it from me.  Not stumble across it.

I haven’t told them about Writer Dad yet.  Shock precedes awe.  They’ll know soon, and when they do, I’m sure they’ll want to talk to you guys.  

Please be warm, they’re really nice people.

Tomorrow, I’d like to talk a bit about the letter.  It was an important piece of writing, crafted with intent.  I think writers (that should be all of you) will be interested.

Writer Dad

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The Ninth Wonder?

“Some stories are true that never happened.”

~Elie Weisel

I love my Macbook.  A lot.  It’s safe to say there’d be no Writer Dad without it.  

It’s possible I might’ve stumbled into writing anyway, but it wouldn’t have been in the ninja in the dead of night way it did.

I feel like I can do anything with my notebook.  I don’t mean curing hunger or bending time, but I can write books, make music, or cut movies.  

Maybe one day paint pictures.

Everyone can be an artisan.  

A limitless toolbox, often weighing less than five pounds, is available to most.

I love to learn.  

The more I learn, the more I understand how little I know.  

I’ve wanted to make a video.  I have the tools, just never used them.  But there are plenty of tutorials and the software is easy to use, so I don’t really have an excuse not to.

Today’s release is an old ditty, in different clothing.  I’m not sure who among us has been here since we last saw it, but it’s different enough to make it worthy.

I hope you enjoy. I’d love to hear what you think, good or bad.  

If you enjoy it, please consider Stumbling, or following the link and leaving a comment on Youtube or Viddler.  

Thanks,

Writer Dad

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Last Friday’s, wee-book: Number One and Two it!

This video would not have been possible without the help of Ian from Indigo Spot, who not only helped me figure out why I was a gimp in the first place, but how I can avoid being a gimp in the future.  Thanks, Ian, and everyone who piled in the tow truck.  You guys were amazing.

The Eighth Wonder of the World 2.0:

Poop. Put it in the Potty

“Finding a good quote about potty training is hard.  I guess no one really wants to talk about it.”

~Writer Dad

Deciding when, and how to take our wee ones from diapers to deliverance is something every parent must face.  

The common timeframe delivered by experts is somewhere between 18 months and 3 years, though I don’t believe that age is as relevant as readiness. 

If our child can tell us about their dirty diaper, they’re probably ready.

If they can articulate their need to be clean, they’re probably ready.

If as an adult, they might remember a time when they strolled the house in diapers, then they’ve been ready for quite a while.

Toilet training might be the first major chasm we cross as parents.  It involves us as much as them, and should be driven by careful thought. Learning to use the restroom isn’t just about losing the diaper, it’s about gaining personal responsibility.  

When we allow our children to stay in diapers when they’re capable of doing otherwise, simply because they don’t want to take their next step or it’s more convenient for us, then we’re allowing them to make the rules, and setting a poor precedent, at a far too early age.  

Worse, we’re teaching them that we’re comfortable with the idea of cleaning up after them, until they decide different.

I know what you’re thinking —  “But my daughter’s only two.” 

That may be true, but she’ll soon be four, then six… then sixteen.  

Right now, she’s learning who she is, and those first years are paramount.

For some children, training is effortless, as easy as slipping vegetables into the mac and cheese.  For others, it’s a trying time when our spawn will heavily assert their will. 

This difficulty shouldn’t detour.  Remember, it’s called potty training.  We may have a little extra laundry, and a load of extra conflict, but the battle is relatively short, and when it’s over, our child is stronger and so are we.

This is all very pragmatic; yet perfectly practical parents seem to lose all perspective when it comes to potty training. 

It’s delicate. 

Either we hedge because of the anticipated difficulty, or we’re afraid of the damage to their psyche if we push too hard or too fast.

As far as cerebral ruin is concerned, I’m not suggesting that anyone wrap their children in chains until they can properly eliminate.  I’m simply saying we should observe our children, for it is us who know them best. 

When we’re confident they understand what’s happening, and what they’re supposed to do, and their bodies are capable of getting the job done, then we have no excuse as parents to stand idle and allow them to make messes for us to clean, with no accountability to themselves.

Potty training doesn’t begin when we finally decide to grit our teeth and buy a couple dozen pair of underwear.  It’s an awareness that we should build into the conversation from the changing table on.

I know the subject’s touchy, and I certainly didn’t raise it to see my subscriber count drop, but Daisy and I have trained ten children in the last three years.  If approached clinically, and in the right window, potty training is a positive and empowering experience.

Today’s wee-book was written from that experience.  Please consider a purchase.  It’s eight wonderful pages and prints beautifully.  You can laminate it and let your little one hold it in their hand.  It’s the first collaborative fruit from the Writer Dad tree; its success is fertilizer for more.  

The awesome picture up top is from Dave at Blogger Dad. He’s melted a multitude of minutes to draw and format this wee-book, without seeing a single penny.  

I hope to correct that this weekend, but either way, I’m glad we could offer potty training help to those who need it.

It’s been a great week.  See you Monday.

Writer Dad

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Going to the potty is something we must do.  Mommies do it.  Daddies do it.  Even me and you…

Previous Friday releases:  Mia Maria and Two Times the Kindergarten, Lucas Bright: I Know I’m Special, The Eighth Wonder of the World, and Bye Bye Butterfly.

A Breath of Fresh Air

Everywhere is walking distance if you have the time. 

~Steven Wright

I had to gas up yesterday.

It made me sad.

No, not because of that, though I did pay with a fifty, and couldn’t tip the tank of the Toyota.

Back in early June, Daisy and I made a bet (with ourselves).

Mia’s Immersion program is on the other side of town, as is Max’s pre-school, so our schedule requires us to burn a bit of fuel.

With only two weeks left of schlepping, we decided to see if we could go the summer without gassing up a single time.

Well we certainly tried, and we almost made it.

We left the house nearly every day, but Max can count the number of times we got in the car.

From a variety of reasons, here are five:

  • Gas is ridiculous.  Last May, our gas budget swallowed our entertainment budget.  That’s like buying a ticket to wait outside.  
  • Mia’s program is amazing, and free, so it’s easy to consider transportation cost as cheap tuition.  That logic loses wings in summer.
  • Because we can.  All eight of our legs are in perfect working order, and we live downtown in a quietly large city.  We prefer to get all our laziness done on Sunday.  There isn’t any reason we can’t walk to 90% of the places we need to go.  Grocery store, library, movie theater, book store, ice-cream, Walmart (yeah, yeah, boo, hiss).
  • Miles are like dollars; sometimes they should be felt.  Just like using a credit card dulls the concept of money, getting inside a vehicle to travel further than three blocks, distorts the space between A and B.  We rarely use credit cards, and often walk.  We want our children to feel the distance, and understand it in terms beyond the number of traffic lights.
  • You see things through a different lens.  Life’s different, blurring by at thirty-five miles an hour.  In a car you’re a tourist.  On the street, a citizen.  Seated, I could never see the steam ascending a coffee cup as it loses it’s thick to clear air, sailing from the lips of a quiet man who looks too old in his solitude.  I would miss shadows wrinkling as the electric train idles in front of city hall and pedestrians in suits, both cheap and expensive, show displeasure at having to wait. 

Our children also see these things.  I know because we discuss them.

The walking is wonderful.  

We hold hands, and look both ways.

We ask questions, and wait for answers.

We anticipate our arrival, and feel reward when it happens.

I’m glad we did it.  It made me wonder why we need two cars.  We travel in a tribe, and the rare use of both at the same time melts a necessity into a luxury.

Maybe eight dollars of gas wouldn’t be the end of the world.  Maybe it’d be some kind of new beginning.

Writer Dad

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Barbara Swafford was kind enough to select Writer Dad as the New Blog of the Month. I feel really lucky. Check out the wonderful things she has to say.  Also, Writer Dad has a guest post over on City Mama today. The theme is the Eighties. If you have a couple of minutes, it’d be awesome if you dropped in.

If you liked these words, you’ll probably love, “Catalina Island,” “Adios,” or “Sink or Swim.

The Truth in Our Make-Believe

Be careful of your thoughts; they may become words at any moment. 

~Ira Gassen, Author

Do you remember when you were little and you used to play pretend?  You had a chariot pulled by a team of dinosaurs wearing purple capes, and a flying monkey friend named Monkeechy…

No?

Oh… um… never mind.

Well you still played in the Land of Make-Believe, right?  Did you have fun?  Of course you did.  Nonsense is the best.

That, at its core, is writing.  Of course, it’s a really long, drawn out game of pretend, where you have to keep changing the rules and deciding which imaginary characters aren’t allowed to play with you anymore, but the train pulls into the imagination station just the same.

And not just fiction.  This works for non-fiction as well.  

Some of the best posts I read are those where you can feel the author stepping slightly outside his skin, toying with the medium.

In fiction, this is currency.  Fantastic worlds, populated by impossible beings, or suburbs bursting with friends and neighbors; both are born in the brain, no different than Monkeechy.

Last year, while driving, a line popped inside my head, followed by a second to match.  

They were funny.  

Laughing, I pulled to the side of the road and searched through the mini-van for something to write on.  This was in the dark ages of last Winter, when the thought of being a writer was almost abstract.

A napkin… too crumply.  

A wrapper from an old cheeseburger (gross, Writer Dad) …. too waxy.  

A receipt… too small.

My hand!  

No, too sweaty.

I pulled back into traffic and started repeating lines.  By the time I was on the freeway, I was singing a four stanza song to myself.  

Seven and a half minutes later, I exited the freeway, struggling to remember a pile of lines, quickly evaporating from my mind.

I raced passed a wide eyed Daisy.  ”I need a minute,” I mumbled.

I scribbled.  

Stopped.  

Then stared at my paper with a smile the size a banana.  

But we had work to do, and if I wanted rave reviews for my ditty, then the worst possible time to present it would be during any one of the six-hundred and twenty-four minutes left before bedtime.  

Six-hundred and twenty-four minutes later…

“This is really good.”

“Really?”  I don’t say this as much as squeal it in a voice at least three octaves above the baseline needed to sire children.

“It sounds like you.”

That story was different than the few that had come before.  It was playful and confident, with a more natural voice.  

About a week later, I took the story and shifted it to the perspective of a ten year old boy.

The ten year old I was, voiced by the man (and dad) of many more years I am today.

That story is not the one I have for you today.  But it is related.

The boy is named Lucas Bright.  His stories are short, with something to say.  Today’s ditty is his introduction.  

Last Friday’s tale was written with purpose, this Friday’s with mirth.

There’s a teaser below.  If you decide to download, you may do whatever you’d like with the wee-Book; copy and pass as much as you want.  It’s yours.  It’s two dollars (a Venti black coffee).  

If you bought The Eighth Wonder of the World, it’s in your inbox already.

Last Friday was awesome; let’s make this Friday awesome and one.

Writer Dad

 

My name is Lucas Bright.  Grown-ups say I’m smart.  They taught me to ask questions.  

I’m gonna go ahead and start…

 

Last Week’s Story: The Eighth Wonder of the World

I Promise.

“Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success.”

~Author unknown

Ever since Friday, I’ve been answering emails about Promise.  

Did you really name your daughter Promise?  Is Promise a real person?  How did you write the eighth wonder of the world, and how long did it take to put together?  

The most frequently asked question:

What kind of account will yield that amount of money?  

I have to admit, I love this.  

Though Promise was born only in my mind, her birth is significant.  She is my first character to be given voice to an audience beyond the living room.  We don’t ever really see her, and we don’t know much about her, but I think anyone who reads those eleven hundred words can easily understand Promise’s quintessential truth.  

I’d like to answer some of these questions today, but since I don’t think Writer Dad’s quite ready for a list post, allow me to spin a yarn instead.  If you’re still curious when I’m finished, shoot me an email.  

The story starts last November.  I’d been writing for around two months.  I was all juiced, anxious to start collaborating with Daisy.  ”Come on Baby,” I’d beg.  ”Let’s write a book.”

“When, in our spare time?” (Note: This is not a serious question.)

….. Writer Dad hovering……

“Fine.”

All I’d written up to that point was a chapter book for Mia and my own abysmal short story, which was by then turning into a complicated novel through some kind of mysterious cell division that I seemed to be both in charge, and under the control of.

I wanted to keep tinkering with the novel, but I didn’t want to get lost in a bog.  If I was going to be a Writer instead of just a writer, I needed some good circulation.  We don’t go to the gym, only to beat on the same set of muscles, right?

In two decades of teaching, Daisy’s never refused a book as gift or purchase, and I was reading twenty to thirty children’s books out loud to a room full of children, every single day.  

I wanted to try my own.

Daisy and I have always thought that there weren’t enough children’s books about money.  This is somewhat bizarre, considering that understanding money is essential to the modern world, and something we should learn at the earliest possible age.  

Not enough parents really teach it, and the country’s children aren’t learning it in school.  

Perhaps it’s a subject that makes people feel uncomfortable, or guilty, or afraid.  

I’m not really sure why it is, but I am sure that it’s an empty shelf of possibility.  

Daisy and I agreed to gather our thoughts and meet at the same time and place (in bed after the children are asleep) the following week.

One week later….

You have how many?”

“Five.”

“Five ideas?”

“No.  Five stories.”

“Let me see.”

The room is still, except for the rustling of papers.

I’m sitting in a perfect ninety degree angle, with my back to the bedpost.  I am, admittedly, quite pleased with myself.  Daisy has brought her page of notes; I have brought a notebook.  I did not know until that moment that what I had done was impressive, but I am drinking her expression as though it were wine at a tasting.

“Impressed?” I am beaming after five minutes of silence.

Daisy looks at me.  

I love this look.

It’s the one that says, “Thank you for making babies with me.”  

At least that’s how I would describe it.

That was the beginning of what turned into a long run of weekly exchanges.  We met every seven days, and each time I would try to get that look again.  This is long before any serious hope of publication; long before I would try to dull my voice to please the gate keepers.  

When I first started, I used the books I was reading out loud every day as a template, but soon realized that my attempts to mimic their charm and simplicity were mostly insipid.  

My solution:  Write the stories as though I was explaining things to my own children, or trying to impress Daisy.  

That night, it was the second story I read that you saw last week.  Back then, it was simply called Promise.  Though it has been heavily sanded, its structure of “The Eighth Wonder of the World” is no different then it was that evening, late last year.  

That special evening also yielded two more stories about money that I’ll share at some point in the future, along with two others that might be the clumsiest things ever committed to paper.  

Not every investment pays off, but you should never stop making them.  Promise the girl was born that night, but so was a promise I made to myself: a commitment to find my voice, and make it heard.  

Writer Dad

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If Mom and Dad never cease their contributions, an average annual return of 10% will make this work.

Crabs Don’t Walk Straight For a Reason

They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.

~Confucious

These next months are all transition.  As our family moves from one life to the next, we must maintain the best of what we’re leaving behind, and anticipate the strange tide of an unfamiliar fate.  

Life well lived should blend consistency with adaptation, we are slaves to evolution after all.  We get one life, it should be glorious.  I want my family to take risks, aim high, and be thrilled no matter the outcome, so long as we tried. 

Daisy and I make a habit of never sitting still too long. 

In our time, we’ve made subtle shifts with modest regularity, penciling in a seismic tremor every few years. 

Our pending adventure rests on a fault line. 

Daisy’s lived everywhere; I’ve lived in the same burg since before I could walk.  She’s taught abroad, packing her rucksack with lessons learned in many countries, on several continents; I’ve rarely left my city. 

A craving to travel, born long ago, is now roaring inside me. 

I want to see everything I haven’t, learn what I don’t know, and visit places that will fill me in a way that the same half a million street signs stuck deep in the concrete of my own city never could.  Being able to find success as a writer, means my office can fit in a knapsack. 

Who am I kidding? 

In another three years, I’ll be slipping it next to my wallet. 

Few things are as romantic as the thought of working wherever I am, whenever I happen to find myself there.  And though success from the keyboard is a matter of when not if, this period is paramount to our preparation. 

Right now, we are hermit crabs looking for a bigger and better shell.  We engage in daily discussion about what’s hiding behind tomorrow’s shadow, but sometimes we get anxious for the sun to illuminate an obvious direction. 

But Writer Dad, wouldn’t overnight success be wrong?

Yes, it would.

Just as nine months of pregnancy prepares the body for the sleepless nights and new, exhausting lifestyle, we need this time to draw ourselves together.  

The biggest difficulty is knowing when to pull the plug.  We have families that are depending on us.  When our world changes, theirs will too. 

We know we’re going, but we’re not sure when. 

In the meantime, we must continue to look our clients in the eye, do the best we can to educate and nurture their children while they’re with us, and believe that everything is for a reason, and all in good time. 

A hermit crab must be sure his new home is right before he leaves his old one to the tide.

Writer Dad

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Swallowing Without Chewing

 

Yesterday, Vered from Momgrind made a comment that got me thinking.  Of course, that’s not hard.  The wind whistling past my ear will detour my thoughts, as long as I think it might be saying something different than it did the day before.  

But if something’s bouncing about my brain without much intention of leaving, than I have to believe that there’s something there worth considering, and Vered’s comment was rattling around for a while.

She mentioned that it’s pretty natural to scan articles while reading online.  

She couldn’t be more right.  

When I first started doing a lot of online reading, I allowed my eyes to float over every set of syllables.  Now, I swallow them as quickly as I can, as if they were the last hot waffles coming from a kitchen that’s closing in five minutes. 

I can’t imagine reading a book this way. 

Can you? 

Really? 

For me, it’s day and night.  A book isn’t something to race through, it’s a first date; slow and thoughtful and considerate.  The internet is like coming home and decompressing at the end of the day, after you’ve been married for twenty years:

Just the facts, Ma’am, just the facts. 

When I crack a spine, I want to be lost in a story, but when I lift the lid of my laptop, I want INFORMATION, and I digest it like a hungry alligator, chewing without swallowing, bouncing from one website to the next, in some insane race with myself to see how much I can consume, and how quickly I can do it.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m not condemning the behavior.  I love to learn this way, and a large part of why I go online thirty-seven thousand times each day is so that I can go to sleep slightly smarter than I was when I woke up, but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t sometimes get a chill wondering about the information overload my children will be facing in another ten years.

Look how much the internet’s evolved in just a few short years.  This September, a good percentage of kids going off to college have no memory of life before the ubiquity of the internet.  What’s it going to be like for the pre-school set now?

My hopes are sky high.

For now, I choose to believe that some major sea change is right around the corner.  Our educational institutions are going to have to wake up and realize that they’re teaching in a way that was out of date back when I was sitting behind the desk making up funny limericks about my teacher.  

The internet’s still in diapers, and together, we share the task of raising it.  But as we shape that alternate landscape, so we shape ourselves.  My children see me on the computer a lot, but I make sure that at least once a day, they also see me with an old fashioned book in my hands and a quiet smile on my face.  

The internet is amazing, but we must never forget what got us here.

Writer Dad

Check out the updated post on reading online.  See if you can spot the changes.

An Old Dream Come True

Whenever Daisy and I reflect on life before children, there are two subjects we can never exhaust: time and money.  It seems we were sick with both.  Unless you’re lucky enough to be one of the fortunate few, once you have children, it seems like someone comes into your house while your sleeping, hits you over the head, and robs you of everything you were stashing under your mattress.  

And that goes for both assets.

Back when we were only two, we often combined our excess time and money into the unforgiving time waster of video games.  Saying that we stayed up late, playing until our eyes bled is only an exaggeration because such a thing isn’t possible.  The lack of blood wasn’t due to a lack of trying.

Daisy married into my obsession.  Before me, it was only Pac-Man, Centipede, and the occasional game of Galaga that rocked her world.  That all changed on September 9, 1999.  

Yeah, I remember the date.  

Sega released the Dreamcast on 9/9/99.  I wanted one, badly, but I couldn’t take off work to waste my time in line.  Daisy surprised me by wasting hers.  When I got home, I had a brand new system and three games waiting.  We popped in Soul Caliber and never went to sleep.  

One of my passions was now one of Daisy’s addictions.

Games became part of our ritual, and we would often talk about that day, far in the future, when we would be playing games with our own children.  I’ve never been one of the camp who believes that games are rot on the minds of the young.  I’m from the school who thinks that everything must be age appropriate, and in the proper measure.  I wouldn’t allow my child to play video games for two hours straight any more than I’d allow them to play Grand Theft Auto (well, maybe when they’re thirty).  But video games, at their best, are wonderful tools for teaching problem solving, hand eye coordination, and spacial relationships.

Life happened, and Mia was born.  We moved, and the game systems were packed away for a long hibernation.  

We have game nights on Mondays and Saturdays.  Last night, Daisy suggested that we blow the dust off the Dreamcast and see if it would still light the screen.  

It did.

We spent thirty wonderful minutes watching our old childlike expressions, newly expressed through our offspring’s eyes.  We watched Max tentatively hold the controller while making careful decisions about what to do next (his job was to make his character drill through the Earth without running out of air), and we could see Mia feel the excitement as she raced her car around a track at a hundred and fifty miles an hour without any possible danger to herself.

It was beautiful – a reminder of who we once were, who we are now, and how close we hope to always stay.  I’m glad my children can make me feel like a child and a father all at once.

Writer Dad

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